Reply to DCUM, please headshrink my MIL issues

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "DCUM, please headshrink my MIL issues"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]This whole thing feels overly (unnecessarily) complicated and stupid but it's driving me crazy, so last stop before I hit up my EAP and head to a real shrink.
I have posted a little about this before but it just gets worse and worse. I know a lot of other people deal with IL issues so maybe your experience can help me.
My MIL lives with us and watches DD (2.5) one day a week, because she wants to (she gets huffy if we send DD to daycare all five days, and I think being with grandma is good for DD. They adore each other). She is EXTREMELY involved with everything DD that she can be, to the point where it's really excessive and obnoxious. DH has told her to back off before and stop monopolizing DD. We also had to tell her to stop buying clothes and shoes and toys for DD although sometimes she still does it and hides it until she thinks DD needs whatever it is. We provide very well for DD, she wants for nothing.
MIL is generally helpful and benign, but she's just ALWAYS THERE. And she's always trying to interact with DD, injecting herself into our conversations and getting in her face. DD loves it of course; I don't. I've gotten increasingly irritated with her to the point where I'm starting to withdraw myself from her and even withdraw DD from her a little, which I think she's sensing and reacting to. The things she does are so minor I question why I'm getting so bent out of shape about it, but it really grates on my nerves. Constantly. And I'm in my first trimester with #2 so extra irritable.
Here are a few examples of the things she does that drive me nuts, just to give you an idea. This is daily. 
-This morning I was playing with DD in the living room; MIL told me "you can go ahead and go get ready for work now, you know."
-asks me about every little thing DD-related. Why were you vacuuming her room last night? Where did you get that new raincoat? Are you going to buy her more milk today? (We were low on milk but not out)
- "Defends" DD against us: She WASN'T eating the toothpaste. She's just playing. She's not hungry, she doesn't need to finish her food. Etc etc etc 
DH for his part is pretty understanding, his mom annoys him too. But he's tired of having these conversations with her and doesn't want to continue to have to do it over trivial annoyances. Am I crazy and need to "unclench" or do I have legit reason to be irritated? Any ideas for me?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics