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Often difficult teens grow into parents with difficult teens. Personalities can be inherited, since physical brain structure and chemistry contribute to shaping them.

So if you turned out all right, I would advise you to grit your teeth and power through it. Think about what YOU would have wanted your parents to do, both to indulge you and to create boundaries. Learn from their mistakes.

I suffered from introverted parents raised with lots of taboos. They never told me anything about growing up, and treated me like a child when I craved an independence I was not ready for, instead of gradually letting me have more responsibility.

So I am trying not to make the same mistake with my children. I answer any question and discuss any subject. I hope that the relationship of honesty and trust built when they were little will stand me in good stead now and when they get to be older.

Dealing with anger and resentment is always hard, but we talk about respectful communication and using a debate tone instead of whining and acting up. The rule is that I will always hear them out when they use the right tone, but they will always be punished and treated like the ill-mannered toddlers they are if they start stomping around, slamming doors or yelling.

It's essentially about who has the most willpower and patience. You have - you're the adult.

Now it won't hurt to have your teen evaluated if you are worried his symptoms are worse than normal. It's so hard to know what's normal at that age! Just make sure to go to a reputable psychologist.

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