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[quote=Anonymous]I'll try to make this short - sister (42) has always been a worrier, full of anxiety. She can worry herself to death over nothing really. This past school year, a new girl moved into her daughter's 5th grade class. All was fine until it wasn't basically. Turns out this girl is a flat out mean girl. She bullied my niece for about the last three months of school. Sister tried to meet with the teacher, but the teacher refused to see the problem. Skip ahead to the last weekend before school - girls at separate birthday parties with one girl bridging the two parties. That one girl went from one party to the next and told the mean girl that my niece was talking smack about her the whole time and that my sister talked smack about her. My sister wasn't there other than to drop off my niece. Niece never said anything about bully except "things just didn't work out" which was corroborated by mom hosting the party, and what my sister taught her to say.

OK, so that's the basics. Mean girl's apple doesn't fall far from the tree. That Sunday evening, she sends a seriously nutty email to my niece's teacher, cc's my sister, saying how awful my sister is, how my niece is a "lost cause until her mother changes her ways" and that my sister bullies kids like hers. It was really crazy. My sister FREAKS THE HELL OUT. She responded initially saying nothing could be further from the truth, then responds again saying she checked with the homeowner and it never happened, etc. At that point, I figured the drama was done.

Not by a long shot. I must have had 25 conversations about this bully and her mom. Then (sorry, I know this is convoluted) she loses her mind, calls me CRYING because the bridge girl had a play date with one of my niece's friends who knew the whole story. That was it. One kid, not her own, had a play date with another kid, not her own, and this sends her into a crying fit, talking about how she's traumatized.

You get the picture. I shut that crap down, saying I won't indulge this anymore, analyzing everyone's every move and word in emails, it's not healthy, get over it, get medication for your anxiety.

She's not speaking to me now. How bad was it that I finally cracked and said I won't listen to it anymore?? I feel really bad. I know she's full of anxiety but I feel like I was just fueling it, and when she freaked over a play date not even involving her kid, that was the last straw for me.

P.S. Niece is fine and having a great summer, utterly unfazed by any of the mean girl's crap.[/quote]

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