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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an African American mom. My opinion is by no means monolithic, but my kids preteen to young adult and the kids of my family and friends don't use that word on social media. I can't say they never utter it at all, but they seem to pretty quickly hop on people who do, so I suspect they don't use it. My stepson actually wrote a paper about the word being unacceptable outside of historical contexts. I don't know any middle class AA families where casual use of the n word by youths or adults is acceptable.

I don't think there's a nice use of the word.

I wouldn't soften its use for my son in your shoes or argue that it's okay to like a post that uses it.

I think it goes beyond a white person not just appropriating the word. There is something problematic for me in his comfort in his friends using it.[/quote]

Thank you for establishing that blacks are not a monolith and while black people share the same scarred history and share the same sympathies with regard to the horrors of slavery, black people still are individuals above all else with individual familiarities with their own individual environments and individual perspectives from their own individual experiences.

So having said that, I am of the opinion that when it comes to the n-word, I'm not going to order black people how to interpret it or confine black people in how they're allowed to use it.  Black people aren't servants to be told what to think or slaves to be shackled and held against their will anymore.  There were many black people who fought tooth and nail and many who fight to this day to eliminate that word from existence and I respect their fight.  But there are just as many black people who opted to embrace that word to eliminate its sting and redefined that word rather than wait for it to die out and as respect their stance as well.  I'm not going to disrespect either faction.  
Black people have endured too much for too long for that one simple thing - respect.[/quote]
Calm down
No one is telling black folk what to do
There are things you can tell kids that you don't want to hear!!
These are kids not 25 yr old men.
You can tell kids there are things you don't want said in your presence , your house or plastered under your kid's pic on social media .
So thanks for respecting that ??
AA Parent[/quote]

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