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[quote=Anonymous]I've been fortunate to have great in-laws. DH has one sister with one 5 year old son, "Jack". Every summer, we go on a beach vacation with DH's parents and sister's family. We now have a 10 month old, so this will be our first time on the trip with a kid.

I was looking forward to the trip until our most recent stay at MIL and FIL's house. MIL and FIL care for Jack very frequently, and when Jack's parents are around, they take the time to relax, go out, and generally abdicate all parenting to the grandparents. I have no problem with this - this is normal in my family of origin as well. Last time we visited was kind of a disaster. Jack would grab baby toys from DD, jump and tumble very close to her on purpose, smack her hand away when she reached for something of his (MIL and I were right there and would not have let DD touch any of the "big boy" toys). When MIL verbally reprimanded him about any of this, very gently and reasonably, he would throw tantrums and scream things like "You just hate me and I hate you!"

The last time Jack and DD spent time together, she wasn't yet as mobile or active as she is now. I'd like to hear from anyone who has dealt with this situation. I don't feel comfortable disciplining Jack in any way, so my "solution" is to remove DD or stay on top of her. But Jack won't leave her/us alone. I took DD to the bedroom for a nap, and asked him to go back to grandma because it was nap time. He threw a fit. I'm worried about the upcoming beach trip, because the area isn't conducive to taking DD for long walks in a stroller or otherwise doing our own thing, although I'm looking into nearby places we can take her. MIL expects her grandkids to spend most of the time with her while the parents have fun. Any tips? Is his normal for a 5 year old? It seems like more normal behavior for a 3 year old to me, but ultimately it doesn't matter. I need practical advice. FWIW Jack is a healthy, average kid who attends school with no problems there. [/quote]

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