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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hate to break it to you but this is already affecting your son. I grew up with parents who bicker constantly. I'm now in my mid-20's and hate going home to visit because of their palpable contempt for each other, and the ridiculous snarky conversations they have with each other. I moved out at 18 specifically to escape their dynamic.

Maybe your DH is depressed, or anxious, or is just an asshole. I suggest you do something - ANYTHING - about this situation for the sake of your relationship with your son.[/quote]

Yes my parents were like this too and I swore I would never do that to my kid. I went into therapy myself for a few years before I had a child to figure out ways to stop that pattern. I really dislike myself for allowing this to happen. He is my only child and I want us to have a good relationship because I don't have a good relationship with my parents.  Their dynamic makes me too uncomfortable for it to be enjoyable to spend any time with them.

I'm just so scared of what the future holds if we split up. I know that's not a reason to stay, and if we didn't have a kid I'd have taken steps long ago but I can't imagine messing up his world. But I will do anything for him so if I have to I have to. I honestly think DH has anxiety (but he considers his anxious traits a positive and what make him successful) , so maybe convincing him to get treatment with that is the first way to go. He did go to a session a few years ago at my urging but I doubt he told the real story so he came home and said the therapist said he didn't find anything to treat--he's just dealing with some situational stress. -OP[/quote]

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