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My son graduated from college in May and is back home.  The week before he graduated he let us know that he had a girlfriend (and has had her for as his girlfriend for 3 years).  I knew he had a girlfriend back in his sophomore year (the same girl), but googled her at the time and found out that she had past felony charges, had served time in jail, and is 8 years older than he is.  So I put up a stink; he lied and said he had broken up with her.

Well, long story short, he is still with her.  He is looking for a job, but his GPA is subpar and he is in a liberal arts field so it will be hard.  We provide him with a car, insurance, a room in our house, etc.  When he told us about his girlfriend, he asked if he could visit her using the car (about a 4 hour drive to where his college town is).  We said no because it's our car and our insurance.  We also said we did not want her staying overnight in our house (our rules).  Needless to say, he is not happy with us.  She drives down and they stay somewhere else (I don't know if it's at one of his local friend's or AirBnB or what).  She parks somewhere else in the neighborhood (not near our house) and we don't see her (although once I saw her with him talking to a neighbor up the street).

He is our only child.  I am having a hard time sleeping at night thinking about all of this.  I do not want to become estranged from him.  Do you think we are taking the right approach.  I am very worried about his future with this woman even though he tells me not to worry.  My husband is more worried about him getting a job and taking responsibility in his life.

Any words of wisdom would be appreciated.  [/quote]

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