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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs are sweet, but here I am on yet another visit, and WE ARE STARVING!

FIL doesn't cook at all, and is accustomed to MIL's behaviors and routines. MIL has a complex relationship with food/eating; DH even suspects she has an eating disorder.

MIL will cook a "big brunch" (really just a very standard breakfast at *7:30 a.m.,* and then says we don't need lunch because we had brunch. Then dinner is super early, is very sparse, and then "the kitchen is closed" with dishwasher running at 7 p.m. If anyone gets in the kitchen after hours or between meals, "Who's in there? What's going on? What do you need? Are you eating again?" I just can't take the judgment/scrutiny.

We're freaking hungry, again. And no, we can't bring our own food without tons of guilt trips and observation and commentary.

Any advice? Anyone been through this?[/quote]

You're adults. And food is a basic need. So be an adult and take care of your needs.

1. Get over the judgment and scrutiny. You need to eat. So what if she asks. She'll get over it. Make DH run interference.
2. Leave and go get something eat. "We're headed out for a bit. See you!"
3. Go to the grocery store and buy food. "Just picked up a few things."
4. Don't stay there.

This isn't that difficult, but you're making it difficult. Stop enabling this weird behavior and making this dramatic. Just eat.

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