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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not unreasonable that she doesn't help you; she has her own life. However, it is unreasonable that she is asking you for help without reciprocating if she is able to reciprocate.

Just tell her "Mom, I'm sorry, I don't have time to do xyz for you. I barely have enough time to do my own stuff, I can't add yours on top of it. Now, if you'd like to watch the kids so I can go do that stuff for you, then we can do that. Otherwise, I am spending all my time taking care of my kids and my household [and working, if applicable], so you'll have to get xyz yourself."[/quote]

This.  I don't think it's fair to expect your parents to take care of your kids.  HOWEVER, if that parent is expecting you to take care of them (and they are otherwise totally capable of taking care of themselves), then I don't see why they shouldn't reciprocate.  Stop being a doormat.  [/quote]

Totally agree.  If she's being punitive and not visiting her grandchildren because you won't help her, that's a incredibly selfish and bitchy thing to do. That's on her though.   Don't let her threaten  you into doing things that she can do for herself. [/quote]

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