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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I wasn't sure I wanted kids, and I'm over the moon for them.  Truly.

But there is absolutely no guarantee that you'd feel the same way.

And you know, maybe I'll feel differently when they are 15 & 13 instead of 2 & 3 months.  I'm sure there will be times when I want to toss 'em both out the window!

I think there are some questions that might help though.

1) Is your husband truly an equal partner in your relationship, and would he continue to be that way with kids?  As in, he takes as many night wakeups as you do etc.
1a) If he's unable to take on that role, do you have enough $$ to pay for needed help?  Like, extended nanny hours, night nanny, yard work, house cleaning etc.

2) Are you someone that can go with the flow a bit, or do you have a very rigid idea of how things should be?

Based on these boards, the unhappy people tend to be people who have shitty partners, and they do 100% of the work, and it's strained their marriage.  Also, people who have really unrealistic expectations for who their kids will / should be, and how they should behave.

This is a very hard decision.  I spent a lot of time anguishing about this.  In the end, I decided that I'm just not someone who is prone to regret, and that whatever decision I made, I'd find a way to make a happy life.

Good luck OP!  And come back here and let us know what you decide :)[/quote]

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