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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and DS #1 have been at the beach with our friends all week. Today we were all supposed to meet (me and DS #2 would fly from DCA) in my hometown in the Midwest. It's my mom's birthday, my parent's anniversary and father's day. DS #2 was going to have his first flight (he's 6 months) and see my 94 year old grandmother for the first time. We only had a short visit planned as I exhausted most of my leave on "maternity leave". I'm a federal worker and we do not receive maternity or paternity leave.

I have been sick with strep throat all week. I haven't really been able to rest as we are doing a renovation project to our house and I have a six month old who is breastfeeding a lot lately at night as he's teething. I feel like I wasn't able to get better quickly because I am so worn down. My DH is also not home so it is just me solo with DS.

I feel really guilty as I had to cancel my flight and get a voucher. I was too sick to travel. I still have a fever after 4 days of taking medicine and Tylenol and drinking only fluids and eating very little as I have no appetite, am very lethargic and extremely tired.

My parents were very understanding and even offered to come to DC. My DH offered to cancel his trip too. I just feel awful that my DH is missing his first father's day with DS #2 and that my parents and grandmother won't see DS #2.

Do you feel guilty when you have to put your health over visiting family? I know I made the right choice, but I really struggle. I didn't want to get other people sick or even sicker and I didn't feel strong enough to pack, take the Metro and all the baby stuff to the airport, be on a plane by myself, probably have to reinstall the carseat my parents borrowed, etc. Would you have done something different?

I didn't want my DS #1 to miss out as it's my mom's 65th birthday and her birthday party is a theme my son asked for, so her party is actually geared towards his interests (a book they both love). My parents have a lake house and a pool so I know my son will love it there rather than coming home and being stuck inside while I'm sick and his dad takes care of me and a baby.[/quote]

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