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[quote=Anonymous]My Father in Law passed peacefully and quickly about 11 years ago.  Ever since my husband and I have been juggling and managing the various stages of decline with our remaining parents including hospice, home care, independent and assisted living, emergency trips to the hospital, falls/broken bones, blood transfusions and the basic sadness that comes when a parent slowly lets the child take over the reigns (and it has been a fight in one case every step of the way).    We love our parents dearly - of course we expected this to some degree - but the fact of the matter is that parents are now living well into their eighties, nineties and beyond.  Both of our mothers are alive.  One is here and one is out of town.  We live the closest so we are on call 24/7 to meet with doctors and deal with the "stuff" that comes up that they just can't deal with anymore.   Thankfully I have siblings that are in the same boat as me, but they are 800 miles away so the legwork often falls on me and my husband which is tough because we just turned 50 and still have kids at home.   The cost of everything for middle class people is staggering - and they are still lucid enough to worry about it constantly and want to cut corners with the little help they (we)  have.  I'm venting here because I really hope that our own kids are not faced with such a burden and for so long.  Our parents have been relatively healthy - just living long lives and need support - especially once spouses passed.  I'm hoping to hear from others in this situation.  I am worn out and feel incredibly guilty for feeling this way.    Is there a better way?  I feel like I'm the only one of my friends with parents/inlaws this old (late 80s and 90s)  and nobody can relate.  Agh![/quote]

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