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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I continued to do nearly everything related to the house and kids when I went back to work.  Outsourced some stuff.

But I kind of knew that was going to be the deal.  By the time I went back to work, my DH had a pretty big deal job and he just was a creature of habit.[/quote]

Pretty much this, but my situation was a bit different.

I was a WOHM  who got laid off.  Aside from a couple of short-term contracts, I was a SAHM for about 18 months.  DH got used to me doing everything(!!!)  I landed a new contract position that has a definite end date (I'm working on making it permanent, but it's a total outside shot).

So at least for now I am doing 100% of everything, short of what I have out sourced from my own salary.  At this point in time I feel I'm very limited as to what type of job I can get...DH has gotten to the point in his work where he is expected to be there no matter what, expected to travel,  etc.   By default any position I can find would have to be outstandingly flexible, or would require a whole lot of change for DH's job.

Personally, I echo Pp's advice for a trial period are definitely be willing to push back on some things that DH just not picking up slack on.  I'm dealing with things for now because I do know that eventually I will be going back and it is important for DH to keep up his momentum at his position.  The instant I got a full-time job though, or if we collectively decide that I should stay at home, things will absolutely change.  It's not pleasant to be expected to do 100% of everything.

On a side note... I do feel kind of bad ass that I *can* handle every damn thing.  It's kind of empowering now that I'm over the steepest part of the learning curve.  :)
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