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[quote=Anonymous]I've been divorced for 4 years. Dating a guy for 2 years. We recently got engaged.  I'm very excited. He's a great guy, provides for my family well, loves my boys very much.
Problem is my boys have never taken to him.  For the reason as they put it "he's not dad". There is nothing that I or my fiancé" can do to change this or make it better. My boys just want their parents back together. They have said this to me several times. I give no signs or indications  that we are or ever will get back together.  I have talked to them about why it didn't work out with their dad, and that their dad and I are trying to be great parents as that is our number 1 priority.

My boys are 17 and 12.

This is so difficult.  When you get divorced, you think that you will be alone forever. I feel so lucky to have found someone so loving and supportive.  
The fact that my kids won't accept him eats at him and me.

Day to day my kids act completely fine. We go to dinner, movies, amusement parks, have bonfires in the back yard, they play basketball together, we've even gone camping a few times and went on a beach vacation. They have fun and act happy every day.

The second the word wedding or marriage is brought up, they become extremely defensive and sometimes upset. They have said that they would not go to the wedding.

No wedding date is set, we are not in a hurry, we are thinking 1 year from now possibly, and nothing huge.

What do I do?

Break the engagement as that will please my kids?
Get married, and not have my kids at the wedding or happy?

I'm seriously stressed about this. Please help with some advice. I'm interested to know if any others have experienced this, and what seems to make it a bit easier for all involved.

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