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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could use some ideas. My son is in 6th grade and about to start middle school. He doesn't do his homework unless he has to, and if I don't know about it, then it doesn't get done. He often misses recess to finish things up. I don't always know if its done because some things are done in class, and he lies and says it already done sometimes. He has ADHD and anxiety, and really does seem to forget things a lot. He wants to do everything last minute, isn't responsible, [b]and doesn't seem to care although I think he does care, maybe too much[/b].  He gets very upset if I yell at him about it so I try and stay calm but its very stressful for me as well when the teachers call.

He is in regular therapy for anxiety, although we may switch therapists in the Fall as he is getting older and doesn't seem to be getting as much out of his current therapist. He is quite bright and doesn't actually seem to have a problem doing the homework, he's in a gifted program, its more a matter of doing it and putting actual effort in. He is also on medication, but maybe we need to switch to something else. We will also be asking his therapist and psychiatrist for suggestions. He does a sport to give him activity. If it were up to him, he would sit in a dark room all day staring at an electronic, but we don't allow him to have electronics most of the time. Next year the school will give him a computer though. I sometimes have to make him eat. I'm not sure taking away toys will change anything, plus its almost summer and school is about over. His grades aren't great due to missed assignments. He gets straight A's if he turns in everything.

Looking for suggestions on things that might help. We may update his nuero-psych in the Fall and apply to private school. Some people say this is typical tween boy behavior but I think it goes beyond that. We are just running out of ideas to force accountability. As a working parent, its hard to keep on top of him all the time. Tutors have helped in the past but he doesn't have problems doing the work, its more just making him think to do it before its late and I get emails from the school. He won't put in any effort. I'm so upset.[/quote]

Yeah ... the not caring is a big defense mechanism.  Getting started is really hard when you have ADHD and then with anxiety on top of that it all becomes overwhelming very quickly.  Does he have an IEP or 504 with something in there for helping track assignments and due dates?

Have you thought about getting an organization tutor or ADHD coach?  It doesn't sound like he needs a subject material tutor, but he really needs someone to help him figure out how to get on top of everything, stay organized, and not get overwhelmed.
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