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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I'd back off for a couple of weeks. No calls. Let her have her space. Then I'd write a letter explaining how sad you are that SHE has chosen to cut off her relationship with you and her grandchildren. You can share that she raised you to be a caring, thoughtful and independent thinker. Just as you support different opinions and perspectives, you would hope that she can do the same. Share that the door will always be open to a loving relationship and that it's her choice right now. [/quote]

Thank you.  This is very helpful advice.  What I also struggle with, is that she has said things to my kids like, "Your mother fell out of the church, and hopefully God will forgive her.  If not, she has made her path.  Some of us are destined for hell."  That is too much for little people to comprehend, especially when we are trying to explain a benevolent being to the kids.

It is exasperating, and quite frankly, I don't know if she is someone we need in our lives right now.  [/quote]

PP here. As I hit submit, I realized I wanted to add more. You touched on what I wanted to add: Her being in your life does not mean she gets to spew nonsense to you and/or your family. You are open to a LOVING relationship. Telling your kids that you are going to hell, even in her indirect way, is not okay. It's okay to set boundaries with her. It's not easy, but it's okay and really, quite healthy. You are modeling for your children how to take care of yourself. 
Again, take that break. No contact. If she emails you links with no conversation, you do not respond. 
Peace to you. [/quote]

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