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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You mean like - your teenage kid invites 2 friends over for a sleepover.  The kids decide to go and see a movie. You think that's fine. While at the movie theater, one of the kids spots another friend that they know at the theater and leaves with that person. Your kid and the remaining friend watch the movie, look around for their friend after the movie and finally leave to go home. Later that kid gets busted for underage drinking.  That kid's parent blames you for it.

Or something like that?[/quote]

Thanks for the insightful, well thought out example.  OP here.  No, actually, if girls were at the mall and wanted (mostly one girl in particular) to meet with a boy, and the other parents flipped out on you for their DC wanting to meet the someone of the opposite gender.  That DC parents tried to somehow put it on you, if they don't trust their own kid.

Another example, if the other parent tries to orchestrate activities based on who they want their kids to hang out with. Don't teens usually choose their own friends/activities, within reason?

This is all given that your child has not given you reason not to trust them, and this is how you do things, but you don't expect other parents to subscribe to your house rules (unless at your house, as PP stated).  What if the other parent starts coming down on you, for no reason (other than they need to mind their own)?

Hopefully I am making sense about a situation that makes no sense to me.  OP here. [/quote]

Dropping a few 14 year girls off at the mall to shop for a couple of hours is an age appropriate activity.  If the girls secretly chose to meet up with boys at the mall and I found out about it, I would deal with my own daughter.

If another parent dropped a group of 14 year old girls off on a beach boardwalk at 9pm on a Friday night and the girls attracted the attention of a group of college boys, that would not be at all age appropriate and I would be upset with the other parent for doing that - extremely poor judgment.  I would be mad at my daughter for not calling me to ask permission to go to the beach boardwalk.  I would be mad at myself for allowing my kid to go over to such an idiot parent's house in the first place.
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