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[quote=Anonymous]I am an Ivy educated black girl engaged to a white guy. I come from a good UMC family and was raised with doting parents who taught me to love and respect myself. I do not have some leftover trauma from childhood issues or daddy issues that I am aware of. I think I am in my situation because I feel blindly in love with a white man.

I met him and fell madly in love. I thought he was everything I wanted in a guy. He took more than a year to introduce me to his family and friends. This was because his family was appalled that he was dating a black girl. When I inquired about it he shamefully admitted that his family is racist and he does not want me to be subjected to them. Naively I said they're racist because they don't know me. I am nothing like the negative stereotypes of black people some people have. I finally meet his family and it is a disaster. They could not mask the fact that they were unhappy and uncomfortable. They asked me ignorant questions and made offensive generalizations. I felt interrogated and his mother even said she did not understand how our future would work.

I left the first encounter reeling but my boyfriend made me feel better. I meet them twice a year. Each encounter is awkward and humiliating. His mother dotes on every other white girl in the room and refers to them as her daughter and daughter in law but I am still supposed to call her "Mrs. X"; His sister looks at me like I am a worm and has never tried to talk or get to know me. I am always cut out of family pictures. If you look at their facebook you would never know that I have been dating their son for 4 years! We got engaged last year and they threw a fit. Since then they are ignoring our engagement or pretending its not happening. They did not throw us an engagement party or even a bridal shower.

I am so hurt and heart broken. I want to break my engagement. There is no way I can be with a family who disrespects me so much. IS THERE?[/quote]

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