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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]she was the one to ask if they wanted to go to the diner together, all the nieces agreed and said that it would be fun and they should go sometime this week.[/quote]

So your DD needs to be able to say to them, "I was really disappointed that you went to the diner without me." And then she needs to find a more reliable group of friends to do those sorts of things with. Just because they are cousins doesn't make them friends.[/quote]

I agree with this. Your original question was, what should you do. You don't do anything- it's up to your DD and her cousins to work this out. I do think that the cousins were mean if your DD was the one to suggest going to the diner and then they went without her. But unfortunately it's for her to figure out. I think she can say something to them, along the lines of what PP suggested above. Being excluded is a part of life unfortunately. 
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I'm sorry she was left out...I know it's hard for you to see her upset like this, and I would've been hurt, too, if I were her. PPs are right that you absolutely can't bring it up with your nieces or their parents. 100% no way. BUT you can say something to validate her feelings like "I know you were so disappointed/hurt/etc" (as you may have already) and if she wants advice, you can tell her what PP said above, or maybe she can say to them "I thought we were all going together! What happened?"

Congrats on having the kind of relationship with your 16 year old where she lets you know when and why she's upset about things with friends! It's good that she feels like she can be honest with you about her feelings. [/quote]

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