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[quote=Anonymous]Quick little family history before I get into the post. I grew up in a big family, with 5 siblings and about 7 cousins (4 on my moms side, 3 on my dads). Most of us are married and have kids, and most of us all live within 2 hours of each other. As a family we are all really close, no major family drama,and we all tend to see each other a couple times a month, and theres usually a niece or nephews birthday once a month.

So this drama pretty much revolves around my nieces and my DD. My DD is 16, one of my nieces is 14 (my sisters daughter), another is 19 (my cousins daughter), and the eldest is 24 (another cousins daughter).

DD16 and N14 are very close, we live about 10 minutes away from each other and see each other often. DD16 and N19 are kind of close, they briefly worked at the same retail job together and get along. DD16 is not as close with N24, but they do hang out as a group since all 4 of them tend to stick together during family gatherings.
	N19 and N24 are the closest as they are the 2 oldest ‘kids’ out of the family. 
	N19, N24, and N14 are pretty close too as both of the eldest nieces tend to babysit N14 and her sister who is 5 about once a week,

There is a popular teen TV show filmed in our area, and on that show the characters often chill out in a diner, which is about 45 minutes away from where we live. My DD saw on N19’s snapchat story that she went to the diner tonight with N14 and N24. DD was reluctant to tell me about it, but after dinner she was sulking around and eventually showed me the snapchat story. She was kind of bitter at first saying stuff like ‘I introduced N14 to the show, why wouldn’t she invite me?” And just an hour ago she asked if I could take her and her friends with her to the diner on the weekend. She’s kind of a mix of bitter and upset right now, and she was having trouble falling asleep.

The 3 nieces are way more social and outgoing, while DD is a little more reserved and quiet, and while DD often gets left out of social activities with peers at school, being left out with her cousins seems to have affected her way more than it usually does.

I’m wondering what you guys would do in this situation? I don’t know if I should let my sister and cousins know, as the nieces probably planned this themselves. Do I bring it up to my nieces? I know DD won’t say anything to her cousins because she is really non-confrontational, but this whole event is really bringing her down.

I guess it's one thing to be left out by peers at school, and another to be left out by family members that you grew up with.[/quote]

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