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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP my son is 6 and yes, age 4 was terrible. This was when he was the most defiant, would fight with us on everything - going to bed, getting dressed, following instructions...it was exhausting. He is a sensory seeker, but he does have behavior problems. Sounds like your son doesn't??

I know so many people on this board recommend Kazdin, but I frankly find that book extraordinarily confusing, difficult to follow, and oh by the way, reward charts don't work for my son.

Maybe it works for others, but just letting you know it is not some unicorn that magically works for every child with ADHD/Behavior challenges. We did do quite a bit of OT at that age, which helped him meet his sensory needs.

Rewarding a child for "not engaging" in negative behaviors. doesn't get to the root of what is causing the problem in the first place. Telling Johnny to not run around, get upset, be defiant, follow instructions, be respectful and he'll get a prize...is not going to ultimately help us figure out why he is doing these things in the first place. I would recommend Explosive Child over Kazdin. But that is what works for our child. Kazdin seems to work for a lot of others.

I understand how frustrated you feel. It is very hard. My son is better, in that he doesn't fight us on everything now, and his sensory needs have decreased a lot since that age. He still has them, but not to the degree he did when he was 4.[/quote]

I 1000000000 % agree with this poster. Sensory needs are hard. My son had to throw and hit and crash. He is an auditory and contact seeker. It is brutal at times. Yes, you have to find new outlets, and I will tell you taht we could nto at 4. We started ABA at 4.5 and that helped. 4.5 was a very, very hard time for us. 5.5 is better. Not great. Not even good. better. [/quote]

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