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[quote=Anonymous]Don't disregard friends as people who can help.  Twice in my life I've helped battered wives leave.

Once was literally a woman whose blog I read.  I literally commented one day "Why the hell are you with this guy?  He is physically intimidating, verbally and emotionally abusive to you and your daughter, physically abusive and neglectful to your daughter, a racist drunk, and you and your daughter are not white.  What can we do to help you leave?"

And it was like it had NEVER occurred to her.  She is a VERY smart woman who was so broken down by him that she couldn't think clearly.  Everyone in the comments rallied around my comment, and we literally planned her escape in the comments section of her blog.  Some people sent some money (which she paid back) and some went over and physically moved her and her daughter to a new apartment.  We moved her out one night when her husband went to the local bar to drink.  He came home five hours later to find half the furniture, all his wife and daughter's clothes all gone.

I helped a woman who worked in the registrar's office at my college.  I had a work/study job there, and her husband had been abusing her for DECADES, and her son was a stockbroker who did coke (so, no help).  We all rallied around her.  My work/study friend and I made up a fake flier for her to take home regarding a "mandatory" conference she had to attend.  We all helped her find an apartment, rent a UHaul, and gather furniture.  I literally went through stuff in my parents' basement pulling out an entire set of never-used silverware saying "Can I have this? And this dresser we just lean stuff on but never use? And this blanket?"

Her husband thought she went to a conference in one part of the state.  Really she moved multiple states away and he had no idea.

So reach out to friends/coworkers.  You're not alone. [/quote]

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