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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL is here staying with us and I just get so irritable when she does. I can feel it bubbling up but I can't seem to stop it from happening. She knows how to push my buttons and I don't know why, but I can never seem to stand up to her. [b]She does it in passive aggressive ways, and it's always when DH isn't around to back me up.[/b] I know I'm probably overreacting but it's like a visceral reaction. It doesn't help that I'm supposed to get my period any day this time.

[b]I've tried making plans or appointments for when she's here but both DH and MIL consider that to be rude. It's all togetherness all the time.  
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Any suggestions or tips for how to keep myself from feeling like this? [/quote]

A couple ways to deal with the passive-aggression: Repeat what she says, ideally to DH. "Honey, you need to hear what your mother just said" or to her, "Oh? You think x? Ok!" or "Oh? You think x? You'll need to talk with DH about that."

Also, tell DH flat out that if you're going to have a relationship with his mother *at all* you need breaks when she visits--which means he needs to defend that need to his mom.  Tell him that her crappy comments are really hard to take, that you are tolerating her for his sake, so he had darn well better back you up.

Do you have kids?[/quote]

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