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[quote=Anonymous]This is a unique situation because it's about your safety.  It's not like my situation, where I would like my DH to get a vasectomy so that I don't have to take the pill (which I think is bad to take for a super long period of time), and we both hate using condoms.

In your case, I think you need to present all of the information about the two procedures and then discuss them together.  Maybe he doesn't know the particulars and how much more intense your procedure would be.  If you can explain your reasoning for thinking it would be better for him to do it than you, that might be helpful.  Having someone else do it (a man if possible) would be even better -- like if there's a doctor you could both meet with (any men in your OB practice??).

On the other hand, it's your health that is at risk if there is a pregnancy, and so in some ways it's logical for you to have the surgery to prevent any possibility of pregnancy.  I can see that perspective as something he might throw out there.

My DH was totally against it, but we are friends with a couple where the DH just had it done -- willingly (it was even his idea) and is happy with the results.  He's not super close with the DH -- I'm closer with the DW -- so they haven't had a huge discussion about it, but this has really changed his attitude.  He's suddenly brought it up recently as something he might legitimately concern.  It's still an "in the future" thing to him, but his attitude is shifting.  If there's any chance he could talk with other guys who have made the decision, I really think it would help a lot.[/quote]

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