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[quote=Anonymous]During the course of our relationship, I've always felt that I probably love my husband more than he loves me.  Don't get me wrong, I know that he loves and cares for me, but I think our intensity is different. I am usually the one excited to see him after a long day, look forward to having sex, sext him and be more touchy feely, compliment him more, excited about time alone without the kid, etc.  Many times, it seems like he could take it or leave it.  I came across this article and it really hit home:   https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-the-name-love/201105/when-the-one-you-love-doesnt-love-you-much

"...where both people do love each other, but the kind and intensity of the love is different. In our example, while Debra is madly in love with Albert, Albert likes her, but does not love her as much as she loves him. His attitude is not without any traces of romantic love. It involves caring and companionship, but a lesser degree of romantic love. There is a point of love's intensity below which it is not worth being together, but Albert's feelings are above this point."

Sometimes it really feels crummy.  I feel unwanted and frustrated.  Other times, I don't care as much.  I don't really see a solution to this, having a talk for him to show he loves me more won't really make me feel more "wanted" as I know he'd just be going through motions to make me happy. I want him to randomly grab me or tell me he wants to spend more time with me, not some grand gesture.

Is this love difference normal? How do you deal? 
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