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[quote=Anonymous]I am so sorry.  I can not begin to imagine what you must be going through.

I have not had the experience of losing a parent so young, but I've been a teacher of students who lost a parent at about that age.  What I found is that after a couple of weeks, most kids experience grief cyclically throughout the day.  They have periods when they are fine, most often in settings where they weren't used to having their parents present (e.g. school, soccer team, a playdate), and times when they were very sad and needed a lot of support.  The settings where they did well were important, because they allowed the kid to experience a break from the intensity of their feelings.  Even in those settings, the kids were more fragile, less inattentive, and less likely to remember details, but they did pretty well.  Because of this, I'd encourage you to try and get your son back to school, and into other routines as soon as you can manage.

You may also find that having a break from his grief allows you to focus on your own, and it might be quite healing for you.  I imagine that you're feeling torn in two right now, between the immensity of your own feelings, and your desire to protect and focus on your son.

I'll also say that the grief counselors at the Wendt center made an amazing difference for both kids who I have seen go through this.  If you aren't connected with them, or another center specializing in grief, I encourage you to reach out.[/quote]

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