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[quote=Anonymous]I have 2 boys 6 and 3 and have been thinking about this recently - also happy marriage, financially secure etc.  I do have moments of wanting another and fleeting jealousy of those in my situation having thirds, but we are not having one for the following reasons (among others):

- age.  I'm 39 and frankly worry about my and DH's health (which is fine, we are both athletes etc) moving forward.  My dad was 38 when I was born and felt ancient compared to my friends' parents, though I know that's not the case now

- relatedly - the worry that something would be wrong with the baby.  Our kids are healthy and neurotypical and the effect on our family dynamic that a child with issues would have could be devastating.  Sort of a 'stop while you're ahead' mentality

- the lifestyle I want for the family.  This isn't financial but rather attention, time with each alone, getting to know them as people, etc.  The families with more than 2 kids that I know definitely have trouble getting a lot of special (not perfunctory) time with each kid and the youngest especially often seems to be dragged along as an afterthought.[/quote]

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