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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Listen, my husband is an introvert, and while he will willingly do family functions, he does also enjoy and need alone time to recharge. I wouldn't spring a last-minute thing on him like this. 
I'm an extrovert, and last-minute social things don't phase me in the least, in fact I like them. DH and I respect that we have differences in these matters. He doesn't resent me for doing more social things, and I don't resent him for not always wanting to come along.
Again, if this had been a planned event, it would be understood that he would go.
No need for you to apologize, get defensive, or feel hurt.[/quote]

I'm also an extrovert married to an introvert. I don't spring events on him generally, but if something comes up at the last minute, we have a conversation about whether it's something that's important to me or something that I don't care about. In the OP's situation, if it was important to me, I would communicate that to my husband. Does it suck to have to explicitly spell out "It is Mother's Day and I would like to spend time with all my family, so it is important to me that you come to this BBQ tonight"? Yes. Would I prefer that he intuitively grasp that such an event would be important to me, particularly after our many years together Absolutely. But that's not the way it works with us. We have to talk about it.[/quote]

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