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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A friend told me that when her husband's died, it was like beimg awakened from a dream. Reality hits you in the face. It stripped away the religious belief that she was raised in.

She said that God did not prevent her husband from a horrific death. God does not stop bad things from happening to believers or non-believers. Instead, she realized that God and religions are myths made up by people to cope with life. 
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Not OP but wasn't that obvious before?  Everyone knows bad things happen to good people. If someone is religious they have to somehow make sense of that. Why should their feelings change just because it hits home?[/quote]

I had a similar experience to the PP's friend, except it was my cousin who died, not my spouse. I was already walking toward doubt/disbelief in God but his death put me over the edge. It's not that I was unaware that bad things happen to good people...it was the fact that so many people were praying for this person and we were so sure that the miracle was just around the corner, and then it wasn't. It just all suddenly made sense -- God didn't intervene because God isn't real. Sometimes it's hard to really see that until you're in the situation yourself.

That said, I've known people who are religious and experienced tragedy who have their faith in God deepen. I'm sure they're baffled by why someone could turn away from faith in God during a tough time. Whereas I have a hard time understanding how someone could have MORE faith in God after watching a beloved family member die. We're all different and we all experience life differently.[/quote]

I agree with the above -- people are different. I don't understand how people can develop a deeper connection with God after something like this, but apparently they can. People find comfort in strikingly different ways and logic may or may not enter into it.

Meanwhile, I do think our society pressures people to believe in God during times of suffering and loss -- Assuring them that they will find comfort that way.  Some people simply don't, so I think that practice should be stopped.  Can you imagine the opposite -- if after senseless suffering and death, people were pressured to believe that they would find comfort in accepting that there is no benevolent supreme being who continues to care for them and their departed loved one?[/quote]

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