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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In a country of 320 million, does it work for some people?  Of course but usually the exception because of all the emotions involved.  Also, for heterosexual couples, [b]women have a tremendous advantage finding sex partners[/b] (this seems to be implicitly suggested in the article's examples).  This inbalance would appear to create issues in and of itself.[/quote]

But [b]this is not an imbalance if the wife is the one who really wants the open marriage[/b]. We struggled for 10+ years to find a good balance. In as gentle a way as possible, I brought it up. My husband got crazy defensive, and it took me about 18 months to work it out with him. I didn't dwell on his inadequacies in the bedroom (what would be the point?) but instead talked about it being a safety valve and a way to prevent a huge area of dissatisfaction. He really likes having the freedom, in theory, but in truth is not very interested in sex in general.[/quote]

Women can more readily find sex partners but this is not an imbalance if the wife wants the open marriage? I do not follow this at all. If anything, the fact that women can more easily find sex partners would be an argument that it should have to be the man who wants the open marriage before it happens.

(In reality, it should be a non-starter unless both want the open marriage. And, I think, for the majority of couples, an open marriage will be very problematic. I don't think it's a high percentage of couples who can maintain the necessary communication and emotional equilibrium required for a successful open marriage.) [/quote]

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