Reply to Rude to tell someone you passed through their city without calling?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Rude to tell someone you passed through their city without calling?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't mention it. You were within a mile of her and didn't think to email or text to see if she wanted to stop by on a coffee break and give you a hug? How often do you seeeachother? I would be pretty offended.

On the other hand, I live in Arlington and am not really offended when people I'm not super close with don't reach out. There's so much to do here and I don't live in the city anymore. But it definitely signals the end of a friendship. [/quote]

Sometimes you're in town for a very specific purpose - a wedding (and all the pre wedding stuff), to help a sick/hospitalized relative or friend, maybe you're there to attend a funeral and support  grieving family/friends, etc.  Your days may be booked and you really may have zero time to get together with anyone.

I would be really sad if a friend assumed the worst of me and held something like that against me.  I would tell them that I was in town and why I was in town.  I would hope that they would understand that I had no time to get together for chit chat - even though I would have loved that.[/quote]

Of course I would totally understand if someone was in town for a specific purpose and had no free time! But it sounds like OP was just hanging out at a playground, letting the kids run around and grabbing lunch etc. Even if she wasn't able to estimate the exact time she would be there, she could have given the friend a heads up and then texted when they got there. If it didn't work out, no biggie. But since it didn't happen, she should just keep her mouth closed about how she was less than a mile away and didn't think to reach out. [/quote]

I would guess the friend was dealing with rowdy kids in the car which is why she pulled over to let them run off energy in the first place.  She was also planning to get right back on the road after they ran around a bit.

I think it would be way worse to text a friend "I'm at the park - meet me" knowing that you fully intended to get back on the road after 10 or 15 minutes of run around time.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics