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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP.  You aren't a failure or a loser.  At each moment in our lives, we need to choose the best path we can, depending on all the circumstances that surround us.  Your decision today may not be the same as it was 10 years ago, and so on.

IMO, you have children now.  And they need protection, and nurture, and love, and stability.   I can't imagine it's easy to get all that in a house where one parent is emotionally abusive to the other.  So without knowing details of your situation, I'd say you are making a strong and healthy decision to leave an abusive household.

And let me just say one more thing, after my getting some insight into my brother's abusive relationship with his ex-wife.    He's so emotionally abusive that he has her believing at times that she's a bad mother, etc.   He knows how to push her buttons to get the emotional reaction he wants.   Realize that the same could be happening to you.  Your husband's abuse, at the very least, can lead you to have low self-esteem and really doubt these decisions you are making.  Time and distance will help restore some clarity if this is the case.

The only thing I'd recommend, if you can swing it, is therapy for you and/or the kids.   That will help you through this transition with some strong support.    This won't be the easiest thing in the world to do, but when you get to the other side, free(r) from the verbal abuse, then I bet things seem way more clear and way more "right" to you.  I wish you the best.[/quote]

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