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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister is in her late 40s and has gone through a series of profession jobs over the past decade.  Most of these have ended by her being laid off (this field tends to do massive layoffs/hiring as projects start) OR because of her negative attitude.  She is a complainer, big time.

She has been in current job for ~18 months and had her first "talking to" about her attitude.  Her reaction is that she is shocked - because she feels she is justified in her complaints.  And she wants to start looking for a new job.  I want to be supportive, but after this many times in a row ( 3 I can remember in the past 5 years), maybe her employers are right and she needs to be more positive.  How do I nicely tell her this?

For her current situation I do think she's justified based on her side of the story. [b] her coworker isn't pulling his weight and she complains to everyone about it. [/b] I think since she hasn't had to supervise people she doesn't realize that a supervisor wouldn't waste time on her attitude unless it was really affecting her co-workers.  I just don't know how to tell her to stop complaining without hurting her feelings.  [/quote]

Tell her that if this method was going to be effective then by now at her age, she would know and in fact would have been promoted several times over.  Since that's not happening, she needs to realize that this method does not work.

Then tell her if this is really truly something that is an issue and it's really effecting her ability to deliver her work, then she needs to stop complaining out loud to everyone who will listen because it cheapens her message. Then she needs to quietly start  keeping a paper trail.  Ask in writing for any work she needs from her coworker, send follow up emails when work is not delivered, then after she has a month or two of paper trail, she needs to request a meeting with her boss only and describe the issues and have the email as back up to the situation.

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