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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A few years ago, DH started a new business.  We were at the time very solid financially.  We are middle-age and have young children.

Then, I got seriously ill for several months.  Friends and family were sympathetic but largely left us alone and avoided talking about my illness.  That was incredibly hard, but then thankfully I recovered.

We barely had time to catch our breath when the business started to fail.  Now we are working non-stop to try to save it.  We are still holding on financially, but are getting into uncomfortable territory for us. We are SO stressed and depleted.  On the positive side,  thankfully our kids are happy and healthy.  (And we largely have our health but this is all taking a toll.)  Our marriage is holding together but obviously strained.

I'm trying hard to keep this in perspective and to focus on gratitude.   My health scare was MUCH worse, and I know so many families are in much worse, hellish/horrific situations. But I'm so, so tired.  I'm just not bouncing back emotionally.   Perhaps the toughest part of all this is that we are bearing this burden alone.  I have tried therapy in the past but haven't found it to be effective.  (Talking for sessions on end with no strategies....I don't particularly want to spend a fortune just to "vent".)  There truly is no one with whom I can discuss this, other than DH.

What do you do to keep your chin up?  What strategies have you used to recover from a major failure?  (Honestly this is a first for us - until now, we have had successful lives/careers.)

I know that this is DCUM but I'd really appreciate it if you'd keep flames to yourself today.  I'm reaching out into the ethers hoping for some support and ideas for navigating this. TIA.[/quote]

when my life crashed, and I was unable to deal with the chaos, a doctor gave me wise advice that has stuck with me.  Thank you Dr. Zacks.  [b] This single most damaging thing you can do to your children is kill yourself.[/b]

other tips are really ways to scrape by
- dont drink, it only makes it worse
- exercise vigorously with a class, spining or yoga or bodypump.
- get rid of stress, get rid of friends that are a burden, get rid of family that are a burden, you have to focus on yourself and family.
- get a job to keep you busy 
- take it one day at a time[/quote]

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