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[quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend and I started dating 12 years ago back in high school, and made it through going away to different colleges and a couple more years in different cities. A year ago, we decided to move in together and it seems like things have gone downhill ever since. I love him more than anything, but am seriously questioning whether or not I can spend the rest of my life with him. The bigger problem is that I truly don't know how I could even walk away. We both come from big Italian families that are woven together as if we have been married for years. Our grandmothers and mothers are best friends, our families spend pretty much every holiday together, every celebration and more.

My main issue with him is that he is extremely lazy and unmotivated, not driven to be successful at work or anything really, and just kind of coasts through life. Our families are both fairly wealthy, but the difference is that my parents instilled a strong work ethic in me and I have worked hard since graduating from college. I have a good job at a top company, where I have advanced and started building a name for myself. BF has had a string of random jobs, but would seriously be content not ever doing anything and sitting in the apartment surfing the internet all day every day. His parents just send a big check every month, and seem to be okay with his lack of interest in working, which is odd considering that his father grew up poor and built a successful business from scratch. He thought about going to business school or law school, just for fun I guess, but in 2 years can't get around to taking the entrance exams or even cracking a book to study. He also worked for his father's company for a year, but decided it wasn't the right job for him (his older brother plans to take it over anyway).

So, is it possible to get over this lack of ambition and be okay with the fact that he has no real "work" plans for his life? He is a great boyfriend in every other way - he is thoughtful and romantic, always fun to be around, and I know he loves me as much as I love him. But this one issue is a huge one, and I already feel like I am starting to resent him for it. He is essentially a housewife with no kids (and no, he has no interest in staying home with kids when/if we have them).

I think he is planning to propose very soon, and really need to figure out what to do.[/quote]

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