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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're not over it clearly so let it go. I'm sure she has no interest in hashing out an 8 year old fight, just seeing if maybe you all had reached a life stage to naturally reconnect. [/quote]

Considering she never acknowledged her behavior (to me), yeah we aren't just going to reconnect like nada happened. However, at one point she was an awesome person - she just morphed into this person that was not an awersome person.

And, before everyone jumps on me, we have a couple mutual friends that also dropped her about 6/7 years ago, for the same behavior. Sooo, it isn't just me. An acquaintance did tell me that ex-best friend admitted about five years ago she had lost like all her friends.

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I'm not judging you for not wanting to reconnect or saying you have an obligation to do so. Just pointing out that someone reaching out tentatively after 8 years is likely just putting a toe in the water and uninterested in a deep dive into a  old fight.

You seem SUPER defensive about the whole thing which mean imo you're still carrying around a lot of resentment and should do both of you a favor and not respond[/quote]

I am not resentful, but I think the whole thing is weird. If I decide to respond, there will be a line that if she can't acknowledge past mistakes and say she is different - then, I am not interested. I don't considered what happened a fight - I one day just told her I wasn't interested in being friends with someone of her character and when she wants to treat me and our mutual friends better, then we can be friends. I haven't spent the last 8 years waiting for an apology - I have filled it with people who are awesome to be around. She is the one that reached out to me and is now stalking my social media after I didn't respond to her last message.

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I think it's weird to be invested enough to be listing her sins 8 years after the fact. I don't know how old you are but if this happened in your 20s then she's probably an entirely different person today and might just be wondering about your life. Sometimes people wonder about other people they were once close with. Doesn't make someone a creepy stalker for reaching out.

It's also not weird to peruse someone's Facebook after they randomly come up in your life nearly a decade after you knew them either honestly. Or if it is than everyone I know is weird!

If you don't want to be friends with her or talk to her don't. But I feel like you're trying really hard to assure yourself you're on some moral high ground here. You have zero obligation to reconnect with someone who once hurt you. You also don't have to relish in shutting them down and come up with 7000 reasons to justify it. Sounds like you two grew apart as your life priorities shifted. That's cool. Let it be. [/quote]

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