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[quote=Anonymous]First off, the tension isn't between me and DH. I feel that our relationship is doing pretty well and we're relatively communicative with one another. But DH's anxiety/anger about his work is becoming the a constant start of my anxiety and I am having a hard time pulling myself out of the miasma of tension to find the right time to talk to him about it. He is super frustrated with his work place, some of his co-workers, and the fact that he's falling behind (us and the kids have all been sick this past month for weeks and weeks). This morning he was so angry about a work thing he wanted to punch a wall (which he has done only once before like 4 years ago). The situation definitely warranted an angry reaction IMO, but not to the extent that he had.

I really want him to go see a therapist about this and I've mentioned it to him before because this has slowly been increasing since the death of an immediate family member a few years ago. But he refuses. He was always an introvert since I've known him and since we got married and moved, he's been an even bigger introvert. It doesn't bother me because I'm social for both of us and drag him out to see our friends, etc., but it means that he has no one to vent to because he'd rather not bring up his problems with anyone other than me, hence the building tension all around. Not his mom, not his siblings, no one.

I feel its unfair to my own mental well being to be his only source of venting and that it's not enough for him to just vent, he needs to find a way to work through those feelings and be constructive about it. I go to therapy and work on my shit, basically, so why can't he?

Any suggestions on how I can help him understand that he need to not slap down the idea of therapy and start considering that he may need assistance before this DOES start to take a toll on the family? Kids are too little to notice atm, but give it a few years...[/quote]

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