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[quote=Anonymous]LGBT adoptive parent here. Also adopted older kids and have many friends who also did older kid adoptions. Kids all have my last name. That's because we adopted prior to legalization of gay marriage and so one of us had to adopt. It was me because I did the paperwork. Later, after we were sure we had enough kids, we did the second parent adoption and also got married. We all kept our last names. Even though our names are short, the hyphenation thing seemed too cumbersome to us.

Obviously, we didn't care much about which last name we used. But we do believe having our last name is important.

My only comment to you is that I personally think it's a bad idea to allow a child to keep his last name instead of changing it to a family last name. One of the biggest challenges with adopting an older child is making them feel part of your family, comfortable in your home and confident they are staying, no matter what. It sends a message when you don't change the last name.

Good luck and congratulations to you and your family. Adopting kids was the best, most rewarding and most challenging thing we e ever done. [/quote]

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