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[quote=Anonymous]My wife and I have been married for almost 3 years and have been talking about kids for the longest time. At first we agreed on her carrying the kids (first one would biologically be mine and the other two biologically hers) and my best friend would be the sperm donor. We even agreed that if he wanted to be called dad or uncle it would be his choice and we'd be fine with either decision. I even joked with my best friend about the children sending him a father's day card.

But lately I've been thinking more and more about adoption because both my family and my wife's family both suffer from medical issues. Cancer runs on my side of the family and unfortunately for my wife mental illness is pretty common on her side. In fact my wife suffers from major depression and anxiety and I just can't imagine her NOT having postpartum. And right now she has type 2 Diabetes but our doctor says that if she loses the weight and eats right then we can "reverse" the diabetes.

I bring these concerns up with my wife and tell her that adopting might be the better route for us but she still wants us to have our own children, at least one to be biologically ours. She says she's always wanted to carry a child, to go through that whole process and what not but to be honest I'm just scared. I'm scared of what one of our genes could do to our child, and I'm scared of what pregnancy could do to my wife. I mean we're still a few years from even starting to try to have kids but I feel like this is something we definitely need to figure out NOW.[/quote]

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