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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL is the same, except she has ALS so we know for sure she will die and die soon (probably within a year). All offers to help, have her move in with us, us move in with her, etc., have been rebuffed.  She asked for 4 months to try one last guru effort of vitamins and healthy food a la Steve Jobs mentality because some wise guy told her he could cure her.  But we had to let her do it.  It got to the point where we considered having her deemed legally mentally incompetent, but when we really thought about it, she was mentally clear, as is your stepmother (presumably) and faced with one's own mortality it can be a huge shock.  There can be denial, withdrawal, etc.,  but at the end of the day it's their decision to make, their independence, their autonomy.

Being able to see your stepmother really is about you, and your children.  The world doesn't revolve around what your kids want.  I don't mean to be harsh, but it is.  Step aside.  Be the rock for your father to lean on, check on him, reach out to your step mother via emails, texts, calls.  Let her know whenever she's ready you'll be ready.  My MIL kept her promise for 2 weeks before she called asking us to visit her for Christmas.  It was on her terms.  Let your step mother dictate hers.  Sorry you are going through this.[/quote]

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