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[quote=Anonymous]OP I can totally relate.  I'm 38, DH is 39, and we have a 3 year old son who I got pregnant with on the first try, easy pregnancy and delivery.  Thought trying for a second would be easy.  Been TTC #2 for 2.5 years and never seen a BFP.  I have also been struggling with when to give up.  I've been diagnosed with mild DOR (though the expert on DOR doesn't think so), and also mild immune issues, no issues with husband.  No other health problems and all infertility tests normal.  Besides my low AMH all my other bloodwork is fantastic (FSH is 5, etc.).  Yet still zero pregnancy in 28 cycles.

I'm at that point emotionally where I no longer have any hope given that there's ever going to be a BFP.  I don't buy pregnancy tests anymore and we are starting to give away the baby things.  I worried about the stress I'm putting my body through with infertility treatments and worry about a cancer risk down the line, so we're done with IF treatments and are just trying naturally now with supplements and acupuncture.  My husband is very depressed about our infertility and has not reached an acceptance at all.  He says he cannot imagine us with an only child.  I know that he doesn't consider us a "real" family and is constantly comparing us with his co-workers who have several kids.  He has a lot of resentment towards me for my infertility issues.

We have a perfect healthy son and I feel like maybe we should stop while we're ahead rather than risk pregnancy complications with AMA, cancer risk from fertility meds, etc.

The problem is that I am an only child and I had a very lonely childhood growing up and am a very lonely adult now and I wanted my son to have a sibling so he could have a different, better experience.

We've decided to TTC for 6 more months and if no pregnancy by then to close up shop and stop TTC.  I'm starting to feel too old to be pregnant again.[/quote]

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