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[quote=Anonymous]It's so individual, OP. And there is no wrong choice. I thought I was prepared to do IVF. But as we got farther and farther down the rabbit hole with testing (turned out to have immune and clotting issues) I realized I wasn't. We committed to doing 3 IUIs or 1 more miscarriage (after having had 3 in a row), whichever came first. Amazingly one of the IUIs worked. But our decision crystallized on the night I had some spotting at 7 weeks after the successful IUI -- I was sure it was a fourth miscarriage and I realized I just couldn't go through it again after that. I was ready to quit. And DH had always been less invested than I. Luckily the pregnancy continued and I am due soon. But if G-d forbid it still doesn't happen successfully, we are done. I realized I was living my life always thinking of the future and another child instead of enjoying the healthy, wonderful child I already have. Nothing is perfect and I decided that if it didn't work, I would mourn and move on. Financial considerations played a role too. We couldn't afford more than a few rounds of IVF and we definitely were not willing to go into debt.

Good luck with whatever you decide.[/quote]

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