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[quote=Anonymous]What would I, personally, do if this were my 18 year old child or close relative? Most likely I would not involve the police.

Based on your post, it sounds like the individuals from whom this young man has stolen credit card information have all been family members. In that case, I would cancel & replace my card and take precautions to prevent him gaining access to the new one. I would not report my close relative to law enforcement for a financial crime against only family, nor would I encourage other relatives to do so (although I acknowledge that they'd be perfectly within their rights if they did). I would significantly limit my contact with the relative committing this fraud/theft, and I would make it clear to him that his behavior was the reason.

If he had also stolen the credit card information of people outside of our close family, I would feel a divided responsibility both to my relative and to his victims. In that scenario, I think I would first work with my extended family to try to get legal representation in place on standby for the young man and then anonymously inform his victims of what may have occurred to their credit card information.

Aside from the stealing of credit card information, the other behaviors you mentioned are obnoxious (rudeness, defying house rules) or unfortunate (moving out so suddenly, a seemingly deteriorating relationship with his parents) but not something I would consider a big deal or the business of anyone but him and whoever he's living with at the time. If an 18 year old does not wish to follow the rules established for the place he's living, moving out seems like the best choice to me.[/quote]

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