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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you make a couple of other really important points.  I'm the 10:35 PP from above.  Happy to help, BTW! :)

In terms of not wanting your child to feel inferior, judged, etc., that was one of the reasons we really started seeking help out for my son.  We had been concerned about ADD inattentive type since kindergarten, but he pulled really good grades, got along great with everyone and handled things well, even if he was a bit anxious.  By the time 4th rolled around, the academic expectations were more stringent and starting to get to him.  He also was picking up on his peers doing better than him and when he would tune out during lectures, tune back in, realize he was lost and ask questions, the kids were all yelling things like, "She just SAID that!"

So his self-esteem really started going downhill.  So first we got the anxiety under control with a great psych and a great school counselor.  Then we pursued the ADD diagnosis with a developmental pediatrician and asked our son how he felt about meds.  He wanted to try them immediately.  I talked to him at length about why the anxiety impacted his performance and then we talked about his focus issues and how his brain worked in that regard.  It helped a lot that his doctor is ADHD as well!  He was really able to show how successful you could be and still have these issues.  He told my son a lot of funny anecdotes about how he was treated and how he saw things growing up and my son could really relate.  Also, just know that with certain issues – in my son's case, ADD – it can really impact social relationships because my son can't focus long enough on other people's cues to clue in to how to act.  He acts a little immature as a result.

As for the teasing at school – we hopped on that the second we saw it.  That didn't really start up until 5th.  Most of my son's friends have known him since kindergarten and they all supported him (a lot of them are shy or sensitive too, great kids).  But a few kids picked up on my son being really sensitive and started baiting him to get him upset and then they'd make fun of him.  His counselor really helped cut that crap all real quick.  She made a whole mediation lesson out of it and taught the whole class (so my son wasn't outed).  She pulled aside individual kids outside of class.  She also made sure all the recess monitors knew as well and they don't really allow that stuff during recess.  We are lucky though, our school is great in regards to making sure all kids are well-supported.  But seriously, email his teachers and counselors and make sure they are aware of it.  In some grades they have so many kids, they don't know about all the comings and goings unless you tell them.  I always joke with my kids' teachers that I never want to get involved, I just act as an extra set of eyes and ears!  I've always had teachers thank me that I let them know what was up.

Hang in there.  You're doing a great job supporting your kid.[/quote]

Wow, what a great school. You're lucky...is it a private? Would you share the name? 
If not, I understand. You sound like a great mom.
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