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[quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to second what others are saying in that both you and your husband could be correct, and it may take awhile to get it all pinned down on what is exactly going on.

But I also wanted to commiserate a little.

When our middle child, my son, was small and struggling in kindergarten, my FIL used to insist ALL the time that our son was absolutely brilliant and that the teachers just had't figured it out yet.  He also believed our son was bored and way above the material being presented.

I was uneasy with that and now, years later, with an ADD-inattentive diagnosis and reading and writing LD's, I know why: it really, truly does your child such a disservice.  If they are actually struggling and you go with my FIL's mindset, they don't get help for years and years.

It turns out that is what my FIL did with both his sons, and guess what?  My DH discovered when my son got diagnosed that he is ADD-inattentive as well.  It makes so much sense now why my DH is the way he is and how he was in college (we were there together).  My DH now also has full-blown depression co-morbid with the ADD and still is in denial that he has it.

I, meanwhile, advocated for my son tirelessly these past five years and he has a great IEP, great support, sees a great psychiatrist who helps with his anxiety and ADD and is about to start meds because he is in tune with himself and sees that he is being so down on himself because he can't focus at school.  My DH is on board for the most part, but still denies he has it and won't try meds himself because he is convinced he is just "gifted and a little quirky."

I wish my son had someone he could look up to more about this, but it is what it is.[/quote]

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