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[quote=Anonymous]Hey, OP. This is probably about his communication and your communication styles. Ask him to first empathize with you instead of starting in on what is wrong with what you said or what could go wrong. So, he should say, "Oh, honey I understand you feel overwhelmed/frustrated with the laundry/angry right now. I get it. I'm concerned, however, that the kids also have difficult lives blah blah blah blah" So ask him to validate your feelings, and THEN go onto the issues. It totally helps me. My DH used to just jump in and tell me why whatever I said was wrong "No, we can't add a second story to the house because 1, 2, 3, etc etc millions of reasons" but now he'll say, "Wow! What a great idea! Having a second story on the house would be great. Have you thought about the building code?" So, he eases me into the letdown by validating my GREAT ideas, that are usually just pipe dreams anyway. [/quote]
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