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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is one of those "in my day!" posts but I'm looking for other words of wisdom. Growing up, my parents were strict. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16, wasn't allowed to talk on the phone (to boys or other friends) for longer than 30 minutes and I also wasn't allowed to have the phone in my room (this was obviously before cell phones in late 90's/early 2000's). When I did start dating, boys were not allowed in my room and we were never to be home alone. My HS boyfriend didn't even go to my school so I only talked to him for 30 minutes a day (if we even talked daily - he and I both were very active with sports, jobs, school, etc) and got to see him very occasionally on the week nights and then on Fridays and Saturdays. I was a great kid, never got into trouble, didn't lose my virginity until I was 21, didn't drink until college, etc etc. Looking back, I like these rules, these rules make sense because teenagers don't always make smart decisions. My parents and I now have a wonderful relationship for what it's worth.

Fast forward and I now have a 14YO step-DS (DH obviously didn't have the rules I did or else he hopefully wouldn't have had a kid at 18 years old but that's beside the point). I know full well that all kids are different but step-DS now has a boyfriend and it's really worrying me that kids are in CONSTANT contact with one another these days. She is glued to her phone: FaceTime, SnapChat, Facebook, texting, etc etc all hours of the day and night. Don't kids need a break from one another? Doesn't this constant contact heighten emotions (FaceTiming with your boyfriend while you're in bed feels entirely too intimate to me at 13/14/15/16/17/18... years old) and spell trouble? What the heck do you even talk about for 16 hours a day?! I just don't get it...

I'm not looking for advice. Her mother lets her "date" and lets her do this at her house and her father doesn't seem to care so I stay out of it. I'm just curious as to how others feel about it. [/quote]

You have no kids and no clue.[/quote]

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