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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why the ban on English? Just curious. I mean, do all of you live in the U.S.? Is everyone bi-lingual or are some non-English speaking...? I hope this is not offensive.
As far as the other issues it would make me uncomfortable also and feel judged. This all could get better or worse as the kids get older. But he is your brother and the kids should know each other. I think you should keep up with the visits and try to follow their rules.  Be respectful. 
 My guess is that they are not judging you at all, but they are struggling to maintain control of their house and children. It is probably stressful for them when you or anyone else visits. 
Try not to let it damage your relationship. 
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NO no, not offensive at all! There is a belief that many of my compatriots have that speaking English at home will damage the parents' native language skills of kids. Like, you have to have a language safe space :) 
Everyone is bilingual, but my brother and SIL don't speak it with ease whereas I do - maybe this has something to do with this aggressive desire to have a non-English speaking home.

do you think I should limit the visits to once a year even though they invite us more often?[/quote]

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