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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you're going through this. I've worked with my son since before he was toddler, because he had issues at birth, and I think he thought this was normal. What was difficult was training his siblings to be respectful of our space and need for quiet. I've had to be VERY strict, enforce military-style compliance, basically. Now they follow my rules and only need a reminder every now and then.[/quote]

What? Why is that good? Don't you want your child to be able to adapt to the outside world where there isn't militarized silence?[/quote]

I did not write that.

I wrote that I have had to be very strict. When I tell them to do something, they do it. Our days used to be extremely regimented, with a time and place for all activities, to minimize questions about schedule, whining and procrastinating. My son with special needs knew he had to practice X and Y every day at A and B times, and his siblings knew they had to leave us alone at those times, without getting into trouble. I've juggled several kids working at the kitchen table at once, which can be exhausting when they all need help and everyone's tired. I have had to teach them to wait their turn, be patient and respectful, and at times when problematic behaviors emerged and challenging needs could not be met, it felt like an impossible task.

Now my children are older (the youngest is 6), they are much more responsible and understand the bigger long-term goals, so I have become flexible accordingly. I am so thankful that the difficult days are over! My son still needs a lot of help, but it's a management-type help instead of a constant hand-over-hand kind.[/quote]

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