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[quote=Anonymous]My child and my brother's kids are close in age, and we have been visiting them (it is easier for me and my kid to fly than to have their family over) about every 6-8 months.
However, as the kids grow older, it is becoming apparent that some things are very different in our households, and I am not sure how to resolve these.
First, we are immigrants and so English is not the first language for any of the parents (myself, husband, brother, SIL). They are pretty strict about speaking the other language at home. I, on the other hand, don't care that much; I don't want to spend our 5-7 day visit yelling at my son for not speaking the other language with his cousins or I. Brother and SIL however are making a point of correcting their kids. So, it looks like my son is the reason they all start speaking English. 
Second, screen time. My husband is very lax about screens. My brother and SIL are very strict. I am somewhere in between. I let my son bring his iPad to their house,and I feel there is resentment over him showing his cousins his favorite apps and videos. I do limit the screen time, but still.
Third, my son was once upset and yelled some rude words (in the other language, haha, but it would be something along the lines of all those four letter words). Now, SIL is still in shock from what I understand. My brother denies it but I have this very distinct feeling...
Anyway. They still invite us over. But I am pretty tense about it all. I don't want to feel guilty about my parenting and on the other hand I don't want to be mad at my son for not being this model child. 
What do you think I should do? I was thinking about going maybe once a year, or not going at all. Or maybe I should not overthink this and just keep visiting every 6 months. [/quote]

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